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The Real Love Curriculum

Let’s talk about the kind of relationship that doesn’t just break your heart—it cracks you open.

You know the one. The instant chemistry. The “I’ve known you in another lifetime” energy. The deep eye contact that makes you forget your own name… and your boundaries.

You think it’s a soulmate.
The Universe says: It’s a syllabus.

Welcome to the Karmic Relationship.
Population: Most of us.
Course Objective: Trigger your wounds, activate your patterns, and force you to meet your shadow—in the form of a very attractive, emotionally unavailable man with great playlists and commitment issues.

These connections come with a purpose, and that purpose is often not forever love.
They’re here to teach us where we abandon ourselves, how we bypass our intuition, and what happens when we confuse chemistry with alignment.

Shadow work isn’t always done alone in a candlelit room journaling about your inner child.
Sometimes it’s done:

• After you sleep with someone too soon and spend 3 days spiraling because they “didn’t text back like they used to”
• When you realize you were trying to be the “chill, conscious goddess” instead of just being honest about what you needed
• Or when you hear yourself say, “Maybe if I just hold space for his growth…” when really, girl, he needs a therapist—not another woman to bleed her energy out trying to fix him

These karmic loves are sacred in their own way.
They show you your blind spots.
They reveal what you’re still magnetizing from your unhealed parts.
And if you’re brave enough to actually do the work—they help you become the version of yourself who won’t settle for anything less than truth, devotion, and depth.

So the next time you fall for someone and it feels like a spell, ask yourself:

• Is this expansive or familiar?
• Is this aligned or is this attachment?
• Do I want to be loved—or do I want to win their love?

Because real love doesn’t require you to shrink, wait, or earn.
And your shadow? She’s not scary. She’s just the part of you that’s tired of performing.

You don’t have to make every person who breaks your heart into a villain.
Some of them are just karmic curriculum.
Take the lesson. Burn the cord. And keep becoming the one you were looking for.

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