Tequila and Tea

Dating after 40 is easy.
It’s just like riding a bike.
Except the bike is on fire.
And the ground is on fire.
And everything is on fire…
Because you’re in hell.

Welcome to midlife dating. Where you’re emotionally intelligent, spiritually seasoned, and just self-aware enough to know exactly how screwed up everything is.

You’ve done the work. The shadow work, the therapy, the energy clearing, the cord cutting, the full moon release rituals. You’ve saged your ex out of your chakras. You’re basically a goddess with WiFi.

And yet… you find yourself trying to decode a text from a man who uses six different emojis and still won’t clarify if Thursday means a date or a maybe.

At this age, the dating pool is less of a pool and more like a kiddie splash pad—shallow, a little sad, and closed after 5PM.
There are the ghosters, the love bombers, the emotionally unavailable spiritual seekers who “aren’t looking for anything serious” but are open to a tantric cuddle session on the first date.

You start asking the real questions:

• Are you emotionally available?
• Are you in a relationship you forgot to mention?
• Have you bathed today?

But here’s the wild thing—despite all this chaos, you’re still showing up. You haven’t hardened. You haven’t given up on love. You’re still swiping, still sipping your tea (or tequila), still believing that maybe, just maybe, there’s someone out there who can meet you in this sacred, sovereign, gloriously complicated version of your life.

Because even when the bike is on fire, you’ve learned to ride it with style.
Flames in your hair. Boundaries in your back pocket.
Grace, grit, and a whole lot of laughter.

Midlife dating might be hell…
But you?
You’re the kind of woman who turns even hell into holy ground.

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